Some great info on here guys.
I have personally had a car where a front wheel came off after the bolts snapped. This was due to a garage leaving out the spigot and I am lucky to be alive still.
My personal experience with the RS3 was finding it much more sensitive to wheel imbalance than other cars I’ve owned. This was made worse when I bought my OZs and added spacers. Eventually everything was sorted out by Revolution Wheels who had some one of hubcentric spacers machined. The fit was perfect and after putting everything together with the allingment bolts it was better than when I first picked up the car.
By their action, I would concur that Revolution Wheels are indeed professional.
There are two types of centricity methods for road wheels - bolt centric and hub centric. Former is used in slow rotational wheels - large trucks and the like and the latter in high speed applications.
With hub centric it is all down to the accuracy of the hub. OEM wheels will be machined exactly to the hub, so that if a bolt hole is a few thou out, the vast force of the wheel bolt will not pull the wheel off centre. Aftermarket wheels generally have polyurethane inserts that I am sure can be compressed off centre if there is a rogue wheel bolt misalignment. I suspect this happened in your case, so full marks to Revolution!
In Quattro's case he had alloy machined faces on hub and wheel, so should not have happened, even if the bolt holes were out - unless of course H&R's machining of the hub was a little bit loose in which case a fixed head bolt could have pulled the wheel a few thou off centre whereas the loose collar of a floating washer bolt would not...